Christmas is right around the corner! Whether you celebrate Christmas or another holiday, this guided meditation will help you to tune out the stressors of the holiday season and tune into what makes it special and meaningful for you. So, take a few minutes out of the busyness of the day to refocus on what really matters to you. Remember, a few minutes of down time now, will make you more energized and productive later. So find a comfortable place to sit down and close your eyes…Merry Christmas!
There was a woman I knew who was never satisfied. No matter how much wealth she accumulated or how many loving people she had in her life, she was never happy. This woman had difficulty with giving and receiving unconditional love. She always had a scowl on her face. She complained about anything and everything. Nothing was ever good enough. It got to the point where she alienated everyone around her and she created the lonely life she had always feared having. The most challenging part of trying to help her was that she refused to see that she had the power to change her life by changing her attitude and perception of what true happiness is about.
Happiness is not about material wealth or the number of achievements we have acquired. It’s not about wearing top designer fashions or obtaining approval from others. It’s not even about how many friends we have on Facebook and how many of them give us a thumbs up on our posts.
Happiness is always found within. When we love and accept ourselves unconditionally we can experience true happiness. It won’t matter how many material possessions we acquire or how many diplomas and awards we have hanging on our wall.
Most of my joyful memories involve spending quality time with my son and husband. When I conjure up images of shared experiences with loved ones, I feel joyful. In this moment, I can focus on what is happening, right now. I can breathe and notice my body taking in nourishing oxygen. I can choose to focus on joyful memories. It doesn’t mean I stuff painful ones, but I can simply notice and feel, without giving in to the impulse to numb or escape. I can be.
Being in the here and now, compassionately, is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself. It helps you explore what is going on in your mind and heart. It gives you insight and wisdom. You can discover who you are and what might be causing your feelings. You can then choose to respond in a loving way.
Today’s practice: Find a comfortable, quiet place, and sit or lie down. Set a timer for 15 minutes. Take 3 deep breaths, inhaling in through your nose, exhaling out through your mouth. As you exhale, notice the stress and tension melt from your body. Focus on your breathing. When negative thoughts enter your mind, acknowledge them as such and let them go, as easily as they came. There is no need to focus on them.
After you have reached a place of calm, steady breathing take some time to acknowledge what brings you peace and happiness. What do you have in your life right now that brings you joy? Who are the people you trust and inspire you? How does it feel to focus on these thoughts?
When you’re timer goes off, take your time and get back into activity slowly. Now take this practice with you throughout your day.
Amazing things start to happen when you mentally and emotionally separate yourself from the stress of daily work life. If you’re like me, you probably spend an average of 40-50 hours per week working. Now add an average of 10 hours per week commuting, and you’ve spent about 60 hours out of your 112 wake hours per week working. You now have 52 hours left for the week. How do you use this time? After running errands, taking care of the house and kids, or any other obligations you have that doesn’t leave much time for decompressing or relaxing, does it? Every hour you commit to something is precious time and uses up your valuable resources (time and energy). No wonder many people I know, including myself, often feel tired and drained! We go back to work on Mondays wondering where the weekend went.
Your time is valuable. Use it wisely. Make every moment away from work and other obligations matter. Giver yourself the gift of time. Here are 3 tips to set healthy work/life boundaries:
Set aside time on the weekend for yourself to do what you WANT to do, not just things you HAVE to do to. My favorite part of the weekend is going to my weekly acupuncture or yoga class, walking with a friend, or just getting up before everyone else does so I can work on my writing or read something fun.
Go on a day trip with your family and take lots of pictures. You don’t have to go far and you don’t have to spend a lot of money either. We love this time of year in New England. We find there’s always somewhere new to explore that’s just within driving distance. I always bring my camera so I can capture some of our finds, like the beautiful orchid featured here. This photo is from our hike at Noanet Woodlands in Dover, MA. It was a great day spent with good friends. We later had a picnic under the shade of a tree. It’s one of the highlights of my spring so far! Note: try to focus being fully present in the here and now when you’re on these excursions. Don’t think about the to do list waiting for you on Monday. It will get done!
Think of an end of the day or work week ritual that will help you transition from work mode to personal life mode. After work I mentally tell myself I’ve “clocked” out and therefore I’m no longer being paid to think about work. If there’s something on my mind I write it down and note what action I want to take the next day or week about it. When I get in the car I leave work behind. There are some days that’s harder to do, but the more I practice, the better I get at it. My favorite thing to do now is listen to audio books. Friday night there’s a free wine tasting at our local wine shop with appetizers and good company. Think of something you can do that you look forward to at the end of the day or week.
What are some end of day/week rituals that you do? What’s the highlight of your weekend or time off from work? How are you with work/life boundaries? Would love to hear…