Self-care strategy #23: 3 tips to create a sanctuary from the work week

A pink lady slipper at Noanet Woodlands, Dover, MA

A pink lady slipper at Noanet Woodlands, Dover, MA photo by Sofia Reddy

Amazing things start to happen when you mentally and emotionally separate yourself from the stress of daily work life. If you’re like me, you probably spend an average of 40-50 hours per week working. Now add an average of 10 hours per week commuting, and you’ve spent about 60 hours out of your 112 wake hours per week working. You now have 52 hours left for the week. How do you use this time? After running errands, taking care of the house and kids, or any other obligations you have that doesn’t leave much time for decompressing or relaxing, does it? Every hour you commit to something is precious time and uses up your valuable resources (time and energy). No wonder many people I know, including myself, often feel tired and drained! We go back to work on Mondays wondering where the weekend went.

Your time is valuable. Use it wisely. Make every moment away from work and other obligations matter. Giver yourself the gift of time. Here are 3 tips to set healthy work/life boundaries:

  1. Set aside time on the weekend for yourself to do what you WANT to do, not just things you HAVE to do to. My favorite part of the weekend is going to my weekly acupuncture or yoga class, walking with a friend, or just getting up before everyone else does so I can work on my writing or read something fun. 
  2. Go on a day trip with your family and take lots of pictures. You don’t have to go far and you don’t have to spend a lot of money either. We love this time of year in New England. We find there’s always somewhere new to explore that’s just within driving distance. I always bring my camera so I can capture some of our finds, like the beautiful orchid featured here. This photo is from our hike at Noanet Woodlands in Dover, MA. It was a great day spent with good friends. We later had a picnic under the shade of a tree. It’s one of the highlights of my spring so far! Note: try to focus being fully present in the here and now when you’re on these excursions. Don’t think about the to do list waiting for you on Monday. It will get done!
  3. Think of an end of the day or work week ritual that will help you transition from work mode to personal life mode. After work I mentally tell myself I’ve “clocked” out and therefore I’m no longer being paid to think about work. If there’s something on my mind I write it down and note what action I want to take the next day or week about it. When I get in the car I leave work behind. There are some days that’s harder to do, but the more I practice, the better I get at it. My favorite thing to do now is listen to audio books. Friday night there’s a free wine tasting at our local wine shop with appetizers and good company. Think of something you can do that you look forward to at the end of the day or week.

What are some end of day/week rituals that you do? What’s the highlight of your weekend or time off from work? How are you with work/life boundaries? Would love to hear…

 

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About Sofia Reddy

I am a licensed independent clinical social worker in Massachusetts with over 10 years of mental healthcare experience. My day job is working as a psychotherapist in a mental health program. My second job is teaching graduate social work classes. My 24/7 job is being a mom and managing a home while maintaining my own health, well being and marriage. My specialty is in teaching others mindful stress management strategies to promote health and well being. As a trauma therapist, I work with clients to help them learn about and manage the effects of prolonged stress reactions. However, these strategies are also effective for people who are dealing with the effects of various stressful events in their lives. I also practice what I teach. Through this blog, I hope to bring my practice to you by sharing what I've learned over the years. Take good care, Sofia *Please note: the information presented on this blog is not meant to replace professional healthcare. Always consult with a healthcare provider if you have questions or concerns regarding your health. The views expressed here are solely my opinions and suggestions, and do not necessarily reflect the opinions or policies of the mental health or educational facilities in which I work.
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One Response to Self-care strategy #23: 3 tips to create a sanctuary from the work week

  1. Bryan Knight says:

    Excellent advice.
    BTW: there’s a typo in your link in Links for Shrinks.

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