Using mindfulness to create positive change

Today’s Quote:

The two important things I did learn were that you are as powerful and strong as you allow yourself to be and that the most difficult part of any endeavor is taking the first step, making the first decision.
~Robyn Davidson

Reflection:

When do you know it’s time to make a change in your life? Sometimes the thought of starting something new can seem daunting. Starting a new job, moving to a new place, or changing the status of an intimate relationship are a few of the major life-changing decisions that can seem frightening or overwhelming. It’s fear of the unknown that can keep us stuck and ultimately make us feel miserable. So why is it that many of us choose to stay in situations or relationships that might no longer serve us or the people involved?

Sometimes, our lack of confidence in our ability to learn something new or make adjustments to new situations can prevent us from taking a risk worth pursuing. However, when we quiet the inner critic by accessing our innate wisdom we can allow ourselves to feel as “powerful and strong” as we allow ourselves to be. We can experience strength and perseverance by moving forward and leaving what kept us stuck in the past behind, where it belongs.

Ultimately the change you wish to make needs to come from within your heart and soul. No one else can make that decision for you. What they can do is provide support and encouragement along the way. We have to be willing to make mistakes and learn from them rather than be afraid. There is no perfect life and there is no one perfect decision. We are all learning and growing as we move along this life journey. Life is too short to stay stuck in something that is no longer working for us. This week think about something you wish to change. Try the guided meditation below and let me know how it works out for you. Good luck!

Today’s Practice:

Take 10 minutes to listen to this guided visualization on creating change.  Combining relaxation with visualization helps release the fear and stress of making a life-changing decision. We can create positive change in our lives to experience long-lasting happiness when we let go of fear. By envisioning ourselves making a wise-mind decision we can allow ourselves to feel “powerful and strong.”

 

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Positive Challenge #3: Find happiness in the here and now.

Hershey Gardens, Hershey, PA Photo by Sofia Reddy
Hershey Gardens, Hershey, PA
Photo by Sofia Reddy

There was a woman I knew who was never satisfied. No matter how much wealth she accumulated or how many loving people she had in her life, she was never happy. This woman had difficulty with giving and receiving unconditional love. She always had a scowl on her face. She complained about anything and everything. Nothing was ever good enough. It got to the point where she alienated everyone around her and she created the lonely life she had always feared having. The most challenging part of trying to help her was that she refused to see that she had the power to change her life by changing her attitude and perception of what true happiness is about.

Happiness is not about material wealth or the number of achievements we have acquired. It’s not about wearing top designer fashions or obtaining approval from others. It’s not even about how many friends we have on Facebook and how many of them give us a thumbs up on our posts.

Happiness is always found within. When we love and accept ourselves unconditionally we can experience true happiness. It won’t matter how many material possessions we acquire or how many diplomas and awards we have hanging on our wall.

Most of my joyful memories involve spending quality time with my son and husband. When I conjure up images of shared experiences with loved ones, I feel joyful. In this moment, I can focus on what is happening, right now. I can breathe and notice my body taking in nourishing oxygen. I can choose to focus on joyful memories. It doesn’t mean I stuff painful ones, but I can simply notice and feel, without giving in to the impulse to numb or escape. I can be.

Being in the here and now, compassionately, is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself. It helps you explore what is going on in your mind and heart. It gives you insight and wisdom. You can discover who you are and what might be causing your feelings. You can then choose to respond in a loving way.

Today’s practice: Find a comfortable, quiet place, and sit or lie down. Set a timer for 15 minutes. Take 3 deep breaths, inhaling in through your nose, exhaling out through your mouth. As you exhale, notice the stress and tension melt from your body. Focus on your breathing. When negative thoughts enter your mind, acknowledge them as such and let them go, as easily as they came. There is no need to focus on them.

After you have reached a place of calm, steady breathing take some time to acknowledge what brings you peace and happiness. What do you have in your life right now that brings you joy? Who are the people you trust and inspire you? How does it feel to focus on these thoughts?

When you’re timer goes off, take your time and get back into activity slowly. Now take this practice with you throughout your day.

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Positive challenge #2: Take a 5-minute stress break. It’s as easy as 1, 2, 3!

A moment of sanctuary in California

Step 1. Stop what you are doing. Step 2. Take a deep breath in letting your abdomen fill with nourishing oxygen, and exhale all that carbon dioxide out through your mouth. Notice the tension leaving every muscle of your body. Step 3. Repeat 3 times.

Notice how you feel? What sensations do you feel in your body? It’s important for us to take mindful breaks like this throughout the day. Taking deep breaths and releasing all the stress and tension with each exhale can refuel you throughout the day. Don’t forget to breathe!

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