The two important things I did learn were that you are as powerful and strong as you allow yourself to be and that the most difficult part of any endeavor is taking the first step, making the first decision.
When do you know it’s time to make a change in your life? Sometimes the thought of starting something new can seem daunting. Starting a new job, moving to a new place, or changing the status of an intimate relationship are a few of the major life-changing decisions that can seem frightening or overwhelming. It’s fear of the unknown that can keep us stuck and ultimately make us feel miserable. So why is it that many of us choose to stay in situations or relationships that might no longer serve us or the people involved?
Sometimes, our lack of confidence in our ability to learn something new or make adjustments to new situations can prevent us from taking a risk worth pursuing. However, when we quiet the inner critic by accessing our innate wisdom we can allow ourselves to feel as “powerful and strong” as we allow ourselves to be. We can experience strength and perseverance by moving forward and leaving what kept us stuck in the past behind, where it belongs.
Ultimately the change you wish to make needs to come from within your heart and soul. No one else can make that decision for you. What they can do is provide support and encouragement along the way. We have to be willing to make mistakes and learn from them rather than be afraid. There is no perfect life and there is no one perfect decision. We are all learning and growing as we move along this life journey. Life is too short to stay stuck in something that is no longer working for us. This week think about something you wish to change. Try the guided meditation below and let me know how it works out for you. Good luck!
Take 10 minutes to listen to this guided visualization on creating change. Combining relaxation with visualization helps release the fear and stress of making a life-changing decision. We can create positive change in our lives to experience long-lasting happiness when we let go of fear. By envisioning ourselves making a wise-mind decision we can allow ourselves to feel “powerful and strong.”
Christmas is right around the corner! Whether you celebrate Christmas or another holiday, this guided meditation will help you to tune out the stressors of the holiday season and tune into what makes it special and meaningful for you. So, take a few minutes out of the busyness of the day to refocus on what really matters to you. Remember, a few minutes of down time now, will make you more energized and productive later. So find a comfortable place to sit down and close your eyes…Merry Christmas!
Amazing things start to happen when you mentally and emotionally separate yourself from the stress of daily work life. If you’re like me, you probably spend an average of 40-50 hours per week working. Now add an average of 10 hours per week commuting, and you’ve spent about 60 hours out of your 112 wake hours per week working. You now have 52 hours left for the week. How do you use this time? After running errands, taking care of the house and kids, or any other obligations you have that doesn’t leave much time for decompressing or relaxing, does it? Every hour you commit to something is precious time and uses up your valuable resources (time and energy). No wonder many people I know, including myself, often feel tired and drained! We go back to work on Mondays wondering where the weekend went.
Your time is valuable. Use it wisely. Make every moment away from work and other obligations matter. Giver yourself the gift of time. Here are 3 tips to set healthy work/life boundaries:
Set aside time on the weekend for yourself to do what you WANT to do, not just things you HAVE to do to. My favorite part of the weekend is going to my weekly acupuncture or yoga class, walking with a friend, or just getting up before everyone else does so I can work on my writing or read something fun.
Go on a day trip with your family and take lots of pictures. You don’t have to go far and you don’t have to spend a lot of money either. We love this time of year in New England. We find there’s always somewhere new to explore that’s just within driving distance. I always bring my camera so I can capture some of our finds, like the beautiful orchid featured here. This photo is from our hike at Noanet Woodlands in Dover, MA. It was a great day spent with good friends. We later had a picnic under the shade of a tree. It’s one of the highlights of my spring so far! Note: try to focus being fully present in the here and now when you’re on these excursions. Don’t think about the to do list waiting for you on Monday. It will get done!
Think of an end of the day or work week ritual that will help you transition from work mode to personal life mode. After work I mentally tell myself I’ve “clocked” out and therefore I’m no longer being paid to think about work. If there’s something on my mind I write it down and note what action I want to take the next day or week about it. When I get in the car I leave work behind. There are some days that’s harder to do, but the more I practice, the better I get at it. My favorite thing to do now is listen to audio books. Friday night there’s a free wine tasting at our local wine shop with appetizers and good company. Think of something you can do that you look forward to at the end of the day or week.
What are some end of day/week rituals that you do? What’s the highlight of your weekend or time off from work? How are you with work/life boundaries? Would love to hear…